5 awesome traits in attractive romance heroes: JL Peridot

Love, Nostalgia, and Lights in the Sky by JL PeridotWho says romance heroes are unrealistic? Certainly not me. Yet every now and then, I hear rumblings of that persuasion and can’t help but feel there’s a secret “let-down lover” lurking behind that opinion.

I don’t think good romance heroes are unrealistic at all. To me, these made-up people embody vital relationship-improving qualities that decades of unhealthy relationship attitudes and toxic gender norms have conditioned us to neglect.

What qualities? I’m glad you asked. Here are my top 5, just to name a few…

1. They’re open to new experiences

If you’ve ever been in a relationship with anyone who poo-poos things just because they’re unfamiliar, you’ll instinctively know why this is a must-have for any desirable love interest. New experiences can be as big and adventurous as skydiving, or as small and emotionally thrilling as falling in love. It doesn’t matter.

What matters is the impact these experiences have on us, enabling us to grow. And how can a couple grow together if one of them is unwilling to grow at all?

2. They’re honest

A romance hero doesn’t lie to their partner. And any time they would consider it, they’ll have a damned good, ground-breaking reason. And still, they take the initiative to come clean eventually—which means not waiting until they’re caught out and lying is no longer an option.

Of course, it doesn’t have to happen right away. Honesty, and the vulnerability that comes with it, can develop as part of the romantic journey. But a good romance hero must own their honesty by the end of the story. There can be no Happily Ever After without it.

3. They’re kind

We’re all beholden to our ego in some way, but a good hero knows that love is more important than pride. If this hero had the choice between being right and being compassionate, they’d pick the latter any day of the week.

For them, life isn’t about winning or getting the last word in—it’s about cherishing the people they care about, and making the most of the time they have together.

4. They’re considerate

Is this the same as being kind? Close, but not quite. Kindness is great, but if you’re having to ask for it all the time, well, you may as well be dating a robot—that said, machines are getting very good at understanding and predicting our needs.

A considerate romance hero doesn’t need to be asked to put the effort in. Driven by a genuine interest in others and penchant for unselfishness, they actively learn to predict the needs of their partner and take it upon themselves to rise to the occasion.

5. They look after themselves

Finally, self-care. Awesome romance heroes don’t need to be muscle-man buff, but ideally they’ll eat as well as they can, get some exercise, and make time to process their thoughts and emotions. Life is hard and unpredictable, and sometimes we’re genetically, culturally, and socioeconomically destined to deal with certain setbacks and challenges.

So on that rare occasion where we can choose, why wouldn’t we choose the things that make life less difficult for ourselves and the ones we love? After all, a loving relationship means sharing the load of each other’s burdens. Genuine self-care is thus an act of commitment. It’s an act of true love.

About JL Peridot

JL PeridotJL Peridot writes love stories and more from her home beneath the southern skies. As the Nyoongar season of Bunuru kicks off in her city, she’s working on a sci-fi novel, hitting the gym, and enjoying Saturday morning cheese toasties with her real-life romance hero.

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Love, Nostalgia, and Lights in the Sky by JL PeridotLove, Nostalgia & Lights in the Sky

A collection of tiny stories, featuring previously published micro fiction, #vss (very short stories), flash and short poetry by JL Peridot. This book contains adult content of a romantic and sexual nature, and is intended for readers over the age of eighteen.

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Excerpt

From “Night Over the Valley” (micro fiction):
Sunlight warms the body, but the light from the planet warms the heart. That and his arms around my waist.

Wars are won and lost in the valley below. Who knows what horrors lay waiting, spattered across the canvas, when our low-orbit vessel crests the mountain horizon? With every pass, we capture the howling of animals, play them through the ship so everyone on board can hear the song, the requiem for a people who’ve forgotten how to love.

It’s why we stay away, they said. Centuries pass like nights while we look on, hoping we won’t be too old when the captain finally cuts the temporal acceleration and we can go home. But until then, we wait.

His hair still smells of Earth. He’s the sunlight on my back, his beard on my cheek the brush of pine fronds in the spring, his breath on my shoulder a summer breeze. My hand on the window a winter’s chill.

“I feel like we abandoned them.” I blink back an autumn rain. “Mutually assured destruction, they called it.”

He nuzzles my neck. “Nothing is assured.”

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What’s in a Name?

A roseIs a rose by any other name just as sweet really? Maybe not. Names carry meanings, after all.

As writers, we often spend an inordinate amount of time searching for the best names for our characters. I particularly have a hard time finding a name easy to type. (Yes, it’s true. I use the two finger method and not all names are created the same for us non-typers. My protagonist in Passionate Destiny is named Margaret and I had a devil of a time typing those letters in the right order.) I also like to have names that sound and mean what I want. Most of us want a male name to sound strong. Maybe a female name, too. Or maybe a sweet name for the female protagonist would be nice and a mean sounding oneWhat's in a name? for her nemesis is just the ticket. So out of curiosity, I decided to look up name meanings. For both the girl and boy names below, I used a baby naming site, babynameguide.com.

Boys:
Aaron (Hebrew, Exalted one)
Brand (English, Proud)
Cullen (Irish, Handsome)
Morgan (Scottish, Sea Warrior)
Will (English, Resolute Protector)

Girls:
Cherri (French, Beloved)
Haley (Scandinavian, Heroine)
Patricia (Latin, Noble)
Sonya (Russian, Wisdom)
Yvonne (French, Archer)

It was fun just reading down the lists to see names I’d never heard before, like Dawnette (Sunrise) or Wacian (Alert). I found some names not much in use any more, like Mildred (Gentle advisor) or Valentine (Strong). There are lots of different sites to learn about names and the research is good—if you don’t get too carried away.

Not that I ever do… 😉

Thanks for reading!
Dee