{"id":3249,"date":"2021-01-30T21:02:52","date_gmt":"2021-01-31T05:02:52","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.nomadauthors.com\/blog\/?p=3249"},"modified":"2021-01-24T09:40:37","modified_gmt":"2021-01-24T17:40:37","slug":"romance-heroes-jl-peridot","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.nomadauthors.com\/blog\/2021\/01\/30\/romance-heroes-jl-peridot\/","title":{"rendered":"5 awesome traits in attractive romance heroes: JL Peridot"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Love,<\/a>Who says romance heroes are unrealistic? Certainly not me.<\/strong> Yet every now and then, I hear rumblings<\/a> of<\/a> that<\/a> persuasion<\/a> and can\u2019t help but feel there\u2019s a secret \u201clet-down lover\u201d lurking behind that opinion.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t think good romance heroes are unrealistic at all. To me, these made-up people embody vital relationship-improving qualities<\/strong> that decades of unhealthy relationship attitudes and toxic gender norms have conditioned us to neglect.<\/p>\n

What qualities? I\u2019m glad you asked. Here are my top 5, just to name a few\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n

1. They\u2019re open to new experiences<\/h2>\n

If you\u2019ve ever been in a relationship with anyone who poo-poos things just because they\u2019re unfamiliar, you\u2019ll instinctively know why this is a must-have<\/strong> for any desirable love interest. New experiences can be as big and adventurous as skydiving, or as small and emotionally thrilling as falling in love. It doesn\u2019t matter.<\/p>\n

What matters is the impact these experiences have on us, enabling us to grow. And how can a couple grow together if one of them is unwilling to grow at all?<\/p>\n

2. They\u2019re honest<\/h2>\n

A romance hero doesn\u2019t lie to their partner. And any time they would consider it, they\u2019ll have a damned good, ground-breaking reason. And still, they take the initiative to come clean eventually\u2014which means not waiting until they\u2019re caught out<\/strong> and lying is no longer an option.<\/p>\n

Of course, it doesn\u2019t have to happen right away. Honesty, and the vulnerability<\/a> that comes with it, can develop as part of the romantic journey. But a good romance hero must own their honesty by the end of the story. There can be no Happily Ever After without it.<\/p>\n

3. They\u2019re kind<\/h2>\n

We\u2019re all beholden to our ego in some way, but a good hero knows that love is more important than pride. If this hero had the choice between being right and being compassionate, they\u2019d pick the latter any day of the week.<\/p>\n

For them, life isn\u2019t about winning or getting the last word in\u2014it\u2019s about cherishing the people they care about, and making the most of the time they have together.<\/p>\n

4. They\u2019re considerate<\/h2>\n

Is this the same as being kind? Close, but not quite. Kindness is great, but if you\u2019re having to ask for it all the time, well, you may as well be dating a robot\u2014that said, machines are getting<\/a> very<\/a> good<\/a> at understanding and predicting our needs.<\/p>\n

A considerate romance hero doesn\u2019t need to be asked<\/strong> to put the effort in. Driven by a genuine interest in others and penchant for unselfishness, they actively learn to predict the needs of their partner and take it upon themselves to rise to the occasion.<\/p>\n

5. They look after themselves<\/h2>\n

Finally, self-care. Awesome romance heroes don\u2019t need to be muscle-man buff, but ideally they\u2019ll eat as well as they can, get some exercise, and make time to process their thoughts and emotions. Life is hard and unpredictable, and sometimes we\u2019re genetically, culturally, and socioeconomically destined to deal with certain setbacks and challenges.<\/p>\n

So on that rare occasion where we can<\/strong> choose, why wouldn\u2019t we choose the things that make life less difficult for ourselves and the ones we love? After all, a loving relationship means sharing the load of each other\u2019s burdens. Genuine self-care is thus an act of commitment. It\u2019s an act of true love.<\/p>\n

About JL Peridot<\/h4>\n

\"JLJL Peridot writes love stories and more from her home beneath the southern skies. As the Nyoongar season of Bunuru kicks off in her city, she\u2019s working on a sci-fi novel, hitting the gym, and enjoying Saturday morning cheese toasties with her real-life romance hero.<\/p>\n

Subscribe<\/a> to<\/a> JL<\/a>\u2019<\/a>s<\/a> mailing<\/a> list<\/a> for banter, updates, teasers, and a free copy of her microfiction collection, Love, Nostalgia & Lights in the Sky<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Website: http<\/a>:\/\/<\/a>jlperidot<\/a>.<\/a>com<\/a><\/p>\n

Blog: http<\/a>:\/\/<\/a>jayelle<\/a>.<\/a>pink<\/a><\/p>\n

\"Love,<\/a>Love, Nostalgia & Lights in the Sky<\/h2>\n

A collection of tiny stories, featuring previously published micro fiction, #vss (very short stories), flash and short poetry by JL Peridot. This book contains adult content of a romantic and sexual nature, and is intended for readers over the age of eighteen.<\/p>\n

Subscribe<\/a> to<\/a> JL<\/a>\u2019<\/a>s<\/a> mailing<\/a> list<\/a>, <\/a>Dot<\/a> Club<\/a>, <\/a>for<\/a> a<\/a> free<\/a> copy<\/a> of<\/a> this<\/a> book<\/a>.<\/a><\/p>\n

Excerpt<\/h3>\n

From \u201cNight Over the Valley\u201d (micro fiction):
\n<\/em>Sunlight warms the body, but the light from the planet warms the heart. That and his arms around my waist.<\/p>\n

Wars are won and lost in the valley below. Who knows what horrors lay waiting, spattered across the canvas, when our low-orbit vessel crests the mountain horizon? With every pass, we capture the howling of animals, play them through the ship so everyone on board can hear the song, the requiem for a people who’ve forgotten how to love.<\/p>\n

It’s why we stay away, they said. Centuries pass like nights while we look on, hoping we won’t be too old when the captain finally cuts the temporal acceleration and we can go home. But until then, we wait.<\/p>\n

His hair still smells of Earth. He’s the sunlight on my back, his beard on my cheek the brush of pine fronds in the spring, his breath on my shoulder a summer breeze. My hand on the window a winter’s chill.<\/p>\n

“I feel like we abandoned them.” I blink back an autumn rain. “Mutually assured destruction, they called it.”<\/p>\n

He nuzzles my neck. “Nothing is assured.\u201d<\/p>\n

Subscribe<\/a> to<\/a> JL<\/a>\u2019<\/a>s<\/a> mailing<\/a> list<\/a>, <\/a>Dot<\/a> Club<\/a>, <\/a>for<\/a> a<\/a> free<\/a> copy<\/a> of<\/a> this<\/a> book<\/a>.<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Who says romance heroes are unrealistic? Certainly not me. Yet every now and then, I hear rumblings of that persuasion and can\u2019t help but feel there\u2019s a secret \u201clet-down lover\u201d lurking behind that opinion. I don\u2019t think good romance heroes are unrealistic at all. To me, these made-up people embody vital relationship-improving qualities that decades … Continue reading “5 awesome traits in attractive romance heroes: JL Peridot”<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[5,4,3,1],"tags":[1743,509,1741,302,1742,911,1744],"class_list":["post-3249","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-author-information","category-book-topics","category-general","category-uncategorized","tag-and-lights-in-the-sky","tag-heroes","tag-jl-peridot","tag-love","tag-nostalgis","tag-romance-readers","tag-what-makes-heroes-attractive"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p9wA33-Qp","jetpack-related-posts":[],"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.nomadauthors.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3249","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.nomadauthors.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.nomadauthors.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.nomadauthors.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.nomadauthors.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3249"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.nomadauthors.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3249\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3255,"href":"https:\/\/www.nomadauthors.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3249\/revisions\/3255"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.nomadauthors.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3249"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.nomadauthors.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3249"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.nomadauthors.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3249"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}